Dear 16 Year Old Self...

9/22/2013

Dear 16 Year Old Penny,

You are 16, wow, I don't envy you!  There's so much that is about to change in your life, it will mold and shape you into the woman you will be when I'm writing this letter at 29 Years Old.  You have had some dark days, some bright ones and some so luminous that you can't even yet dream of them.  These types of letters are never exactly meant to be a guide or glimpse into your future but if I can give guidance to help you where you are now I'll do my best.

1.  Your parents will never get any better, they are great parents individually but please accept the reality that they will only come together in a positive way for you only a couple times in your future.  They don't mean to continue to cause the pain that is associated with it, it's just the way it is and you need to move on and accept it.  You'll never make either of them happy with your decisions or what's happening in your life 100% of the time but you can make yourself happy and know that they will do their best to support that.

2.  Try harder in school.  I know you are bored, I know you are interested in so many other things and searching for what makes you whole but everything associated with your desire to ditch school is not always positive.  You are bright and smart and so very worth being educated.

3.  That boy, yes the one who has just entered your life, he will forever change you.  He is a good boy but guard your heart and know that the moment he hurts you or you fear him please walk away, don't look back, don't play the yo-yo game with your heart or your body.  You deserve someone who will honor, respect you and above all never lay a hand on you or break your heart.  I can tell you though that the path of experiences you walk with him will lead you to the man who will make you the happiest girl in the world

4.  You are beautiful...you might not feel it every day but you are, not just inside but outside as well.  Everyone around you sees it, embrace that, embrace them and love yourself.

5.  If you can please get to Courtland's house five minutes earlier every day you have to pick him up from school, tell him he is loved and hug him.  Tell him he is an amazing friend and how much you need him in your life.  You won't regret it if you do but you will if you don't, because of your friendship with Courtland you will learn to treasure each and every friendship you have.

6.  You will eventually get everything you want in life, it will take time, it's not exactly as you picture it right now but you are happy and you will have your every dream fulfilled.  Your heart will be full of love and your home full of laughter and smiles.  You will have a stable home for you and your family and fully enjoy your job everyday.  You will be surrounded with the ones you love and the ones who love you, you'll learn quickly to cut out anyone who brings any dark cloud into your happy place.

Bottom line to this letter is that I know 16 sucks, it really does and trust me when I say there may be days when it seems like it's not worth going on, there will be heartbreak but there will be love, there maybe jokes and laughs but there will be tears.  Your life from today on is a journey paved with several types of experiences but all worth having and knowing.  When you get to where I am now you will be able to look back at 16 and know that it was a great time in your life and it's made you who you are but there's so much more to life than that period of time.  You will become a strong, beautiful and most of all happy woman...hold onto everyday from here on out, you can do it!

Trust in Life, Trust in Love...
29 Year Old Penny

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15 comments

  1. This is so amazingly awesome. If I think back on my 16 year old self there are a lot of things I would warn, advise and simply comfort myself about as well. Thanks so much for sharing and connecting with the Mommy Monday Blog again this week :)

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    1. anytime and as always thanks for stopping by and checking it out!! I definitely wouldn't do a repeat but I'd like to give some advice!

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  2. I love your letter. I think back to when I was 16 and I sometimes wish I could turn back time but I'm happy that I got to experience what I did back then because it made me the person I am today. :)

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    1. thank you! I agree with you 100%

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  3. Anonymous9/24/2013

    Absolutely beautiful! If only we knew better back then! But then again whatever happened in the past helped mold us into the strong and beautiful people we are now ;)

    PS. Love the button :)

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    1. I completely agree...have to know where you've been to appreciate where you are and know that it was worth it!

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  4. Anonymous9/24/2013

    This is such an awesome idea! I love it! Aw Penny, you make me feel for you in that moment in your life. It's like you have God's view in knowing what will happen to 16 year old Penny. So beautifully written. Thanks for always linking up with us on Mommy Monday. You're amazing! xoxo

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    1. I didn't want to share too much because then it's just a guide to your future...have to leave a little mystery right? :)

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  5. I love this post!! What a great idea. I wish we could have the opportunity to travel back in time and warn our younger selves. I know there's things I wish I could have done differently. Great Post, doll!

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    1. I know right? Like I said I didn't want to give too much guidance cause then it's just a blueprint to life and what's the fun in that?

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  6. Great post! I did one of these "letters to my younger self" posts a ways back and it was as fun to write as it was to read, such a fun way to reminisce. Thanks so much for linking with us for WDW!!

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    1. anytime! thank you for stopping by and checking it out!

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  7. there's so many things I would have told my self to not do. thanks for the wonderful article linking up from wine'down wed. have a great day

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  8. I love 29 year old Penny, and I'm pretty sure 16 yo me and 16 yo you needed us both. There are sooooo many things I wish I would've known back then. Nonetheless I believe some of those things I did and went through, made me stronger. Perhaps, they even helped me be who I am today, and even if I wasn't strong then, I am now, I can share that with my girls. Hopefully, I can tell them about 16, like nobody told me....
    Thanks for sharing this post via Mommy Monday love!! XOXO

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    1. oh yeah we would totally have been buds! I agree, I hope to "share" not "push" my experiences on the girls...I want them to know as they get older than I'm not just a mom but a woman too and I've been there and done that and that they can talk to me if they have something they need advice on!

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