Week 9 of 52 Weeks of Blogging with a Purpose: My Goals for Motherhood...

8/12/2013

Wow, that's quite a thought to wrap my brain around.  I know I'm a good mom and I know I have an idea of who I want the girls to be as they grow up but my goals to get them there, hadn't really processed that...doesn't it just happen?  Obviously not.

Actually, today on our way home from an overnight trip I was telling my husband "I always want our girls to know their self-worth".  They get told by me, their dad, their grandparents and even the occasional Home Depot employee "you are so gorgeous" or "you are so pretty" and truth be told, they are!  My kids are probably some of the most beautiful girls I've laid my eyes on but I don't want them to believe their self-worth is based only on their looks that's why I also try to tell them all the time "you're so smart" or "that's brilliant, you're a genius!".  I want them to know that their insides, their integrity and smarts make them just as beautiful as their physical appearances do.

I also want my girls to know that a man doesn't make you.  Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and as a SAHM and wife I appreciate that every morning he puts both feet on the floor and makes a promise to do everything in his power to provide for us and keep our lifestyle one that we are now accustom to.  But before my husband I was in a heavily dependent relationship (amongst other things, but that's for another time) and I needed that person to give me what I needed to feel whole in several categories (money, affection, emotions, etc.).  It wasn't until I left that relationship that I learned I'm in control of my own happiness and being alone doesn't make me less of a person.  It also made me appreciate this amazing man who would probably go to the ends of the earth for me on any given Sunday.  In attachment to that, I want my girls to look at our marriage and know that's what they deserve, a man that showers you with affection, compliments you and makes you his whole world.  They are more deserving of that than any man who puts them down, degrades or belittles them into thinking they are less amazing than they truly are.

Recently, we also starting giving Hannah left over change and have her take it over to her piggy bank and put it in.  We applaud her and tell her she's going to be a great saver!  I grew up in a upper-middle class family in basic Suburbia so the value of money never really hit me until a couple years ago when we had a mortgage, car payments and kids to pay for.   I want both my girls to know that money is worth something and it's definitely worth how much work you put into it.  I hope to take Hannah (and Savannah when she's old enough) once a month to the bank, hand over that piggy bank and watch them smile as they see the bank tellers make a big deal about them adding money to their savings accounts.  Also, as they get older if there's a special treat they want they can also learn to save for it and earn it.  Having things to call your own that no one can take from you is a very rewarding feeling and I want them to have that experience.

I'm sure now that I think about it that I have a ton of goals for my girls as a mom, I want them to know healthy competition and that it's okay to win or lose, I want them to know outdoor activities and that life doesn't begin and end with a TV show and so much more but I think I touched on my Top 3 Goals.

What are your goals for your kids?  What lessons do you want them to learn as they grow up and become the amazing adults we are creating?

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16 comments

  1. What a great post...you have some really great goals for your girls. I especially love the one about them knowing their self-worth...so important when raising little women!!

    www.mommymandymusings.com

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    1. Thank you for stopping by! I also think it's important (especially in today's society) that we raise strong women in our daughters. I want them to maintain the same spunk they have now!

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  2. I love this! Especially when you said "I also want my girls to know that a man doesn't make you".

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    1. Thanks! It's definitely true...they are amazing without a man now and they will always be amazing with or without one

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  3. Great post! I love the goals that you set and the role model you want to be for your girls!
    Shannon
    http://crazyb8utifullife.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks for stopping by. I'll definitely take a look at your post!

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  4. This is great! I love the goals you have set. One of the goals I have for my daughter is to teach her to have confidence in herself and to know that she will always have her family for support. I want her to live on her own before getting married like I did, hopefully in a big city too. I just want her to be happy, no matter what path she chooses in life.

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    1. Thank you! I too had life experience before getting married and it is very valuable to your own self worth!

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  5. I love this post. I love that you're trying to instill in them that their worth is not based on their looks. So many people depend on their looks now and it's really not everything. Life is definitely not what we see on TV, it's not those MTV and VH1 reality TV shows. You are bringing up girls with character and I love it!

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    1. I'm so happy with the positive response this has gotten! Your words are so sweet...thank you!

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  6. Thank you for this. It is so important that they don't attach their worth to their beauty (even if they are gorgeous!).I don't think that people think about that. A beautiful post.

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    1. thank you and thanks for stopping by! appreciate it!

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  7. I love this post! We all need to teach our daughters they are more than looks, and they can do ANYTHING they put their minds too! You are doing great Mama! xoxo

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    1. Thanks doll! I agree with you 100%

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  8. It sounds like you are teaching your daughters great life lessons. They have beautiful names - Hannah and Savannah!

    - visiting from the blog hop

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    1. Thank you! I appreciate everything everyone is saying and thankful for the support!!

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