Our "Perfect" Marriage8/23/2014
I get a lot of comments from people claiming the hubster and I have a “perfect” marriage and things in our life look seamless and easy which in turn shocks me a little because I don't believe anyone has a perfect marriage. I do stand firmly thinking marriage is hard work and it's a choice to stay happy in it. There are always ups and downs in a relationship but if each person is constantly working, I believe it can be beautiful with many more blissful days than trying ones. Here are a few things hubby and I do for each other and our marriage.
LAUGHTER One of the biggest reasons why I married that tall ginger was because he kept a smile on my face. He is probably the funniest person I’ve ever known, even when there are time he shouldn’t be so funny. I’m not the only one who finds him hysterical as we’ve spent many nights with family and friends laughing their butts off. Apparently I keep him laughing too but more in my “did you really just say that?” way.
NOTES We leave notes randomly throughout the home for each other to find. Whether it's on the bathroom mirror or the front door, it's a little reminder for each other that we made an effort and are thinking of them.
TOGETHER TIME We are also those people who truly love spending time together. When we have a spare time, it's normally spent enjoying our time together instead of with friends because it's rare we have those moments with his schedule or with kids. We love being together (see LAUGHTER) so we try to find that time whenever we can.
TEXT & EMAIL Every morning when hubby gets to work he texts or emails me saying he’s gotten to work and also a little diddy about his day and maybe any dreams he had and ends it with "Love ya”. It's something I cherish and look forward waking up to because I know he thought of me right before he got into his work mindset. Vice versa, throughout my day, if I see something or think of him, I send him a little text or email so when he gets a break at work, he has something to know I’m thinking of him.
GIVE & TAKE This is pretty self-explanatory but some people have such a hard time making this happen in relationships. It shouldn't be one sided where one person is always giving, giving, giving. It's a two way street and each party should have the desire to give and receive. Hubby hates watching KUWTK but I love when we do together so he suffers (barely because he has a crush on Khloe) through it with me. It may not be much but it's thoughtful and impactful too.
TALK Hubster would be completely content sitting in zombie mode in front of the TV or flipping through Imgur but he knows how much I like to chat about our days and get some verbal time in so that's what we do. Whether I sit in the bathroom when he takes a bath and chat or on the couch watching a random TV show, we take that time to communicate. It may be about little mundane things or serious matters but whatever the case, it's important to have that time. On the same note, if we're having an issue or "discussion" about something we disagree on, we talk about it. The worst thing to do is let it boil up and then explode so before it gets to that point, we talk about it right away and come to a resolution.
INTIMACY Sex shouldn't be forced. It should happen naturally and because it's wanted by both parties. Plain and simple. Make time for that if your schedules are busy because it's healthy and needed in a relationship!
I hope this gives you an idea of just a few things we do for our marriage. It's totally nothing out of the ordinary but it works for us. We say all the time how blessed we are to have minimal disagreements and simply enjoy life together.